This is a continuation of The Invitation, a previously posted blog challenge. We are now on Day 9.
Please feel free to read the other days and start at anytime!
Incorporate this challenge to fit you! Weekly, monthly, daily however
it will work for you! All material is original blog material written by Dixie. ( I just borrowed the idea ;)
Scripture suggestions are from my personal study, all thoughts and
challenges are from my personal history and my future as I too continue
to strive for more closeness to Christ.
Thought for the day:
Forgiveness is a delicate subject, and one difficult to talk about for
when we or our family members have been hurt or wronged or tragedy
strikes, it can be a blinding pain to the soul. And again because we are
mortal right now and have to remind ourselves to think eternally, many
times we need to deal with our pain or loss. But sometimes in dealing
with our feelings we talk ourselves into a procrastination and find
reasons for putting off or postponing forgiveness with excuses and
justification for being angry. We may be waiting for the wrong doers to
repent before we forgive them, or maybe we are holding a grudge
forgetting that the courageous thing to do would be to forgive. But it
seems that when the innocent have been hurt or die usually we don't
think of forgiveness first. Instead we become angry and feel justified
to get even, thus, even though it is a delicate subject, it becomes a
subject that we need to frequently revisit and strengthen.
James
E Faust he gives a definition of forgiveness saying that "Forgiveness
is freeing up and putting to better use grudges, harboring resentments,
and nursing unhealed wounds. It is rediscovering the strengths we always
had, and relocating our limitless capacity to understand and accept
other people and ourselves."
We know that all of us, everyone,
suffers from things that can't be understood or explained. We may never
know why some things happen and sometimes more than not, those reasons
are only known by the Lord. Even so, we must valiantly endure them for
they are given for our benefit, they are given, for our salvation.
Penny in the shoe: Whenever you feel the penny today in your shoe, think about all the times you have asked Heavenly Father forgiveness...
Challenge for the day:
Let it go.....begin to let it go....and remember, we all have cracks in
ourselves, and we are all trying to do our best, even those who have
offended you, are trying in their life and in their way to do their
best. After all we can do, through the Atonement, Christ makes our best
perfect, for everyone. So let us forgive, even as he does....
“There
is no peace in harboring old grudges. There is no peace in reflecting
on the pain of old wounds. There is peace only in repentance and
forgiveness. This is the sweet peace of the Christ, who said, ‘Blessed are the peacemakers; for they shall be called the children of God’ (
Matthew 5:9)” (in Conference Report, Oct. 1980, 88; or
Ensign, Nov. 1980, 63).- Gordon B Hinkley
Suggested Scripture Reading: (reading made easy just click to view) Genesis 45:1–15;
Matthew 5:43–45 Luke 15:11–32;
Doctrine and Covenants 64:9–10
Journaling Thought: How do I feel at the end of the day, when all is said and done....
My Personal Story:
I
know that in my past at times, I haven't always made the right or even
good decisions and I'm almost certain that those particular decisions
have hurt or wronged someone that maybe was in my path. The hurt and
pain I may have caused was most likely unintentional and if it ever was
intentional I can say it happened because I truly didn't know any
better. I wasn't converted to the gospel or trusting in the Lord, I was
living a worldly life. After turning my life around my thoughts and
actions have become different and now I know and feel when something
isn't right or I've done something wrong or if I am wrong in my actions
toward others. And as I think back and remember the past, it is my
sincere desire that anyone whom I might have hurt or wronged will
forgive me. At the same time, through those years, there were many
occasions when I myself was the victim and I was greatly hurt and
sometimes even traumatized but if I, as a daughter of God, wish to be
forgiven and come clean and whole to heavenly father, I must examine my
thoughts and feelings toward others and I too must forgive. I also had
the thought that, if we, who are converted to the gospel and have faith
and the Holy Ghost have a hard time with this principle, how does
someone without these things living in the world face forgiving. So then
how can I not forgive, for I too was once there. If we, as Christians
want to be forgiven when we have inappropriate thoughts or actions
towards another we must forgive our offenders, even if they never know
that they have offended us, even if they never apologize, even if they
never repent. We must forgive with our hearts and remember it no more.
When
we exercise faith and trust in the Lord, the principle of forgiving
becomes much easier. Our true faith can enable us to withstand even the
worst of enemies as well as provide us with the wonderful gift of a
chance to look beyond ourselves, to think eternally, to in our heart of
hearts, forgive. If we do this for those who have caused us hurt we will
gain a greater self esteem because people who are taught to forgive
become less angry, they have more hope, and are less anxious or stressed
and I can personally say this is true because as I daily examine myself
and make a true effort I change and become a new woman.
It's not
that easy you may say, how can this be done you may ask, as this is a
great thing that is asked of me. But if we humble ourselves and
acknowledge our anger then get on our knees and ask Heavenly father for a
feeling of forgiveness, it will come. And as we rid ourselves of hatred
and bitterness, we open ourselves for the Lord to provide comfort and
peace.
The following has been some of the best advice and teaching
I have ever received and I know without a doubt James Faust speaks the
truth when he says: "Forgiveness is a source of power, but it does not
relieve consequences. When tragedy strikes we should not respond by
seeking personal revenge but rather let justice take its course and then
let go. It is not easy to let go and empty our hearts of festering
resentment. The savior has offered us precious peace through the
atonement but this can only come as we are willing to cast out negative
feelings of anger spite or revenge. For all of us who forgive those who
trespass against us, even those who have committed serious crimes, the
atonement brings a measure of peace and comfort." And I believe he is
referring to any trespass for even the smallest of things can fester up
and cause great unhappiness in our lives...
Now I'm going to
tell you why I wrote this blog, awhile back, I was asked to speak and
given this topic...just three days before I was asked to speak I had
been driving with my daughter tena to cedar hill and along the way on
highway 67 we passed a School where my middle son Bryan attended for
middle school. He attended that school because he had ADHD and back in
the day before there were so many resources and help many didn't
understand what students needed and the student almost always had a hard
time and wound up in trouble. My son Bryan was no exception he had a
really hard time and the two principles at his original school and
myself didn't agree on his measure of help, care and discipline so I
moved him to another school, the one we had passed while driving. Later
when Bryan went to high school I brought him back to our home school
district to attend and wouldn't you know it the two principles for his
ninth grade year changed and those two that we had trouble with were now
back in our lives. We honestly and truly tried our best to work with
everyone, and though Bryan struggled he really did try his best to
behave and pass his classes. Unfortunately many times in life one's past
troubles carry through to the future and no matter what we did to try
and get through the year and stay out of trouble it was not accepted by
the principles and eventually Bryan dropped out. He didn't drop out
without remorse though for he truly just wanted to be a normal high
school boy and he wanted his diploma but there was just no way that was
going to happen for many reasons but the main one was that he was called
names and degraded by the adults in charge and we just couldn't fight.
About a year after he had dropped out a new school was put together that
encouraged students who had dropped out or who had trouble to go back
and receive their diploma. Bryan was so excited and so was I and we went
to the school to apply and see if he could attend. We filled out all
the paper work and waited to see the principle for his interview and
when the doors opened and the man staring at us was one of the very
principles we had been trying to escape, our hearts sank and we knew it
was over. The man laughed at us, he actually laughed at us and told
Bryan in front of me that he was a hopeless case and had no business in
that school or any school and dismissed us without further words. For
many nights after in the next two years to come I sat with my son
holding him while he cried and I listened to him on the phone cry to me
about how worthless he was and that he would never amount to anything,
and, I counseled him many times while praying for help for he would tell
me of how he just wanted to end his life for he was no good and would
never amount to anything and the pain was just too much to handle. Two
years later, after the school rejection, and many other incidents, Bryan
died as a result of suicide. This is the memory that rang through my
mind as Tena and I passed by the school where he attended and lost in
thought I missed my exit and Tena asked what was wrong. I told her that
we were passing the school and I told her of my memories of why he had
to go there and then it happened...I said and I quote " I wish I could
find those two principles and go and look in their eyes and say to them
are you happy now, Bryan is not here anymore to live his life because of
People like you..." Tena immediately turned to me and said mom no, you
know you don't believe that way and you know that's not right, and I
know this is not you at all or what you believe, or what you've taught
us and shown us, I know you don't mean what you said, just let it go and
don't think about it ever again.....She was right for the moment the
words had come out of my mouth I knew I was wrong and I had a great
remorse at having said them and at having been a bad example for her but
it happened so fast because of my pain and the words just flew from my
mouth. Later that evening I tearfully sought Heavenly father, for I
know that those two men and anyone else I've ever had a bad thought
about are Heavenly father's children they too are eternal beings and
kept their first estate and came to this earth just like I did so I must
rid myself of negative resentments and continue in my prayers for help
because I really don't believe that way, but sometimes, even when we try
so hard to live righteously, we can be caught off guard and fall into
worldly thinking ....even so though, there was some good that came of
this, because this was the first time in the three years since Bryan
died that my daughter had ever heard me say something like that. I had
done my best to exercise my faith and trust in heavenly father to
relieve me of the pain, my daughter had seen this and she remembered it
and she helped me when I fell....so not only was my life touched but so
was hers..
May your heart be touched by my personal story, and may we all learn to forgive, even as Christ forgives...
With Love from Dixie....